Archive

Listed are the posts for November 2009.

“I Want to Break Up with My Partner, but I Don’t Want to Hurt Them.”

When I was younger, I chose some pretty awful boyfriends, so breaking up with them was a no-brainer.  I felt justified because they clearly didn’t care about me anyway, or they had done some terrible thing, or they did the dirty work of breaking up with me.  I really preferred to be the heartbroken one […]


Gratitude: Short and Sweet

The more gratitude you shine on something, the bigger and better it becomes.  Happy Thanksgiving! For more thorough thoughts on gratitude, go here: http://elyntromey.com/therapyblog/?cat=24


Getting the Love You Deserve

If you are asking the question, “Do I deserve love?” then you probably were treated as if you didn’t at some point in your life, most likely during your childhood. You were born deserving love- every one of us was.  If you did not get that love, for whatever reason, then you sustained a tragic […]


Worrying about being “That” Person

How often have you wanted to do something, but were afraid to because you wouldn’t want to be “that” sort of person?  Perhaps you want a little more attention from your partner, but are afraid to ask, because you don’t want to be that self-absorbed, narcissistic attention hog.  Maybe you want to ask for a […]


Disengaging from the Silent Treatment

Many people struggle with the silent treatment as a form of conflict in relationship. The dynamic tends to be as follows: one person withdraws attention from the other, who then responds by trying to get their partner to break their silence.  The more the recipient of the silent treatment attempts to break their partner’s silence, […]