Listed are the posts for August 2008.

When You Love Someone Who Treats You Badly

When you love someone who treats you badly, it is difficult to make sense of it.  Your friends don’t get it, nor does your brain, but still you just can’t seem to help yourself. The love feels so strong and powerful that you put up with or overlook the ways your partner treats you poorly. […]

Basements, Bedrooms, Truth

When I was in my twenties, I got into one of those relationships that was all passion (okay, and sex) with very little else holding it together.  The first time I came over to this boyfriend’s house and up to his bedroom, there was a striking absence of anything but a bed.  This new lover […]

You Are Nobody’s Vicodin

When I was 24, I had knee surgery that landed me with a few weeks on crutches.  I was in a good amount of pain, so I was taking Vicodin as one does in these situations. One day, I was hobbling home on my crutches when a voice called out to me from the front […]

Why Ultimatums Rarely Work in Relationships

A classic dynamic in romantic relationships is The Ultimatum.  One person wants the other to behave in a certain way, and threatens to leave if they don’t.  Some examples include threatening to leave if your partner doesn’t stop drinking, hanging out with unsavory friends, or cheating.  The threat even seems to work for a while, […]

Emotional Energy Drainers

Lately, I’ve become a bit obsessed with reducing energy use in our house.  It started with the refrigerator, and me finding out that it uses three times the amount of energy a standard new one does.  Then, I discovered that a good chunk of energy was wasted by having our TV and its accompanying recording […]

Deserving Love

When you feel like you don’t deserve love, you might feel as if love is something that everyone else gets, but you never will.  It can be frustrating to watch all sorts of other people find love, keep love, and make it look easy.  Some people even seem to take love for granted.  Meanwhile, you […]