Category: Getting Therapy

Learning to Love Your Broken, Injured Self

Learning to love yourself can be a messy, painful business in general, but even more painful and seemingly impossible if you were abused or neglected as a child.  If you grew up in this way, you grew to believe that certain parts of yourself were unlovable, undesirable, even disgusting or dangerous. When you are raised […]


When Your Emotional Injury Rules Your Life

When I was too little to appreciate the message, my mom read me the Hans Christian Andersen story  The Fir Tree.  It’s a story that drives its point home in a dark and visceral manner.  It left an ugly impression on me as a child, but as an adult I can appreciate the message in […]


Some Practical Things to Look At Before Starting Therapy

When I see a client for the first time in my therapy practice, I ask questions about their daily life and habits to help both of us get started.  If a person spent weeks in advance of therapy thinking over these questions and trying to address any issues they illuminate, therapy would get a nice […]


Trying to Fix Others to Make Yourself Feel Better

When I met my husband, he was going through a divorce. He’d recently moved with multiple pets into an old, crumbling house that had been a college rental for years.  The pets were insane and both the house and yard were a wreck which nobody had attended to for years.  The hedges were overgrown, the […]


Getting Therapy: Taking the First Step

The idea of talking to a therapist is intimidating for some. If you are unfamiliar with the world of therapy and counseling, this is absolutely understandable. It may seem mysterious, and the idea of opening up to a complete stranger is nerve-wracking. Sometimes, though, the pain of doing this far outweighs the pain of trying […]