Life & Therapy

I read an article recently, on how to get rid of mice.  The last sentence said something about not letting the little rodents get to you too much, and to remember that we humans are bigger than them. It is easy to feel helpless or overwhelmed when mice invade your home.  The truth is that they are not the ones in power- they are dependent on you to leave food out and to leave openings for them from the outside.  They are definitely weaker than us, but it sometimes does not feel that way.

There are times in which we might give our power away to another, making them seem much more important to us than we are to ourselves.  If we find ourselves in a situation where it seems that the power balance has been thrown off, it is very possible that we have been giving our power and our resources away.  What was it that made us give our power away in the first place?  We might not think we are deserving of love, so we hand our power over to whoever is willing to love us.  It could be that we feel lucky to get any kind of work, so we give our power over to a boss who is really an incompetent tyrant.  Perhaps we aren’t confident in our parenting skills, so we are afraid to put our foot down when we need to.  

In these situations, we need to build our confidence back up, so that we learn that we are deserving of love, or that we are good at the work we do, or that we are capable of parenting.  We may need to heal old wounds that have us believing that we aren’t worth much.  We need to become important to ourselves, we need to understand that we are valuable.  When we do, we will be less likely to hand our power over to people who don’t deserve it.