Another year is ending, and many people use this time to make New Year’s resolutions, hoping to do things differently in our lives. I’ve mentioned before that I am not a fan of making changes that are externally motivated (i.e. the calendar page turning), rather than internally motivated (i.e. you are ready for the change). […]
Today, I was cleaning out the fireplace and thinking about embers and how they can stay alive for days after a fire, even though they look spent. You can’t just stick them in the trash or vacuum them because they could reignite. They need to be disposed of properly, so that there is no danger […]
Telling yourself that you deserve love is one thing, but actually believing it and acting like it is something else. If you grew up believing that you don’t deserve love, then that belief has ruled your relationship actions for your whole life. Lifelong actions become habits. Turning those habits around takes awareness and practice. If […]
I’ve been meaning to write about money and emotions for a while now. Yesterday, I felt inspired to do so after reading a blog entry entitled “Why Financial Literacy Fails (and What to Do About It). In it, the author states that the behavioral aspect to spending needs to be addressed as much as financial […]
Today, I was reading a blog entry about boredom- it was titled “Boredom Is Our Enemy.” I found myself completely disagreeing with this concept, so much that I had to comment. That wasn’t enough, though. Now I must make my own blog entry about what can be learned from our boredom. Boredom is one of […]
Recently, in response to my post “Dealing with the Silent Treatment” a commenter expressed frustration with being given the silent treatment, and the lack of advice in how to feel better. Here is an excerpt from the comment: “I can’t just suddenly go about my daily life acting normal. I don’t get why you’d fake […]
The idea of talking to a therapist is intimidating for some. If you are unfamiliar with the world of therapy and counseling, this is absolutely understandable. It may seem mysterious, and the idea of opening up to a complete stranger is nerve-wracking. Sometimes, though, the pain of doing this far outweighs the pain of trying […]
I once overheard a person describing her frustration with her partner to a friend. It was clear that things were not working out in the relationship, that she had reached the end of her rope and truly wanted to call it quits. She listed her many grievances, and stated that she was tired of being […]
In relationships, it is much better to set boundaries than it is to give ultimatums. A good boundary is the result of knowing yourself and having standards for how you want to be treated in relationship. An ultimatum is the result of not setting boundaries to begin with; you find yourself unhappy with how you […]
We’ve reached the end of the year, and the end of a decade. This year, I feel like cleaning up the house, getting rid of things that we don’t need; the things that have been collecting dust for so long. Some of these things made sense in our lives 10 years ago, but no longer […]