Life & Therapy

The more gratitude you shine on something, the bigger and better it becomes.  Happy Thanksgiving! For more thorough thoughts on gratitude, go here: http://elyntromey.com/therapyblog/?cat=24

If you are asking the question, “Do I deserve love?” then you probably were treated as if you didn’t at some point in your life, most likely during your childhood. You were born deserving love- every one of us was.  If you did not get that love, for whatever reason, then you sustained a tragic […]

How often have you wanted to do something, but were afraid to because you wouldn’t want to be “that” sort of person?  Perhaps you want a little more attention from your partner, but are afraid to ask, because you don’t want to be that self-absorbed, narcissistic attention hog.  Maybe you want to ask for a […]

Many people struggle with the silent treatment as a form of conflict in relationship. The dynamic tends to be as follows: one person withdraws attention from the other, who then responds by trying to get their partner to break their silence.  The more the recipient of the silent treatment attempts to break their partner’s silence, […]

As a new parent, I am re-learning many things.  One lesson in particular is about getting attached to expectations, versus understanding the reality of a situation.  When we have an expectation that has very little to do with reality, and more to do with our desires, we can easily become frustrated. Learning our baby’s napping […]

It has been quite some time since I’ve written, but I want to say that this blog is not dead!  I’ve taken a bit of a hiatus, because I gave birth to my first child recently, and things like this blog are hard to keep up with.  I hope to post a thing or two, […]

In relationships, not all silence is the Silent Treatment.  Sometimes, one partner needs more time and space to think than the other partner does.  This is perfectly fine; however, if you are left wondering what your partner’s silence means, then something very important has not been communicated.  You should not have to ask the question, […]

 *3/26/2014* This post was originally titled “Why Do People Give the Silent Treatment?”  The previous title was not accurate in describing the contents of this post, since this post is really about only one aspect of the silent treatment: control.  This post is directed toward the person on the receiving end of the silent treatment […]

Many TV shows and movies are about revenge. In the general plot of most crime shows, the wrongdoer is not only captured, but the detectives interviewing them make sure to let this person know just what a scumbag he or she is for what they did.  Often, there is also some tasteless joke (if the […]

Today begins another New Year.  I have mentioned before that I am not a fan of New Year’s resolutions.  They are often hard to commit to, because they are made at an arbitrary, externally given time.  It is much easier to make changes when we have reached our own understanding of why such changes are desirable […]