Today, I was reading a blog entry about boredom- it was titled “Boredom Is Our Enemy.” I found myself completely disagreeing with this concept, so much that I had to comment. That wasn’t enough, though. Now I must make my own blog entry about what can be learned from our boredom. Boredom is one of […]
Recently, in response to my post “Dealing with the Silent Treatment” a commenter expressed frustration with being given the silent treatment, and the lack of advice in how to feel better. Here is an excerpt from the comment: “I can’t just suddenly go about my daily life acting normal. I don’t get why you’d fake […]
I get a lot of comments on this blog, mainly in response to my posts about the silent treatment and ultimatums in relationships. It seems that some people believe that one gender tends to be more prone toward emotionally dysfunctional behavior. For example, many readers believe that the silent treatment is a guy thing. I […]
Leaving a longtime relationship, even the most unhealthy one, can be incredibly difficult to do. The fear of the unknown can be paralyzing. You might have a million questions. Who will you be without this relationship? How will you get by? What will you do with all the extra energy that you poured into being […]
As a mother of a toddler, I hear myself saying things like, “If you head-butt Mommy again, you can’t sit in Mommy’s lap anymore.” This is a rule that I regularly enforce, and enforcing it is easier because she knows that rule exists ahead of time. Our child also has rules that we need to […]
The idea of talking to a therapist is intimidating for some. If you are unfamiliar with the world of therapy and counseling, this is absolutely understandable. It may seem mysterious, and the idea of opening up to a complete stranger is nerve-wracking. Sometimes, though, the pain of doing this far outweighs the pain of trying […]
I once overheard a person describing her frustration with her partner to a friend. It was clear that things were not working out in the relationship, that she had reached the end of her rope and truly wanted to call it quits. She listed her many grievances, and stated that she was tired of being […]
In relationships, it is much better to set boundaries than it is to give ultimatums. A good boundary is the result of knowing yourself and having standards for how you want to be treated in relationship. An ultimatum is the result of not setting boundaries to begin with; you find yourself unhappy with how you […]
We’ve reached the end of the year, and the end of a decade. This year, I feel like cleaning up the house, getting rid of things that we don’t need; the things that have been collecting dust for so long. Some of these things made sense in our lives 10 years ago, but no longer […]
When I was younger, I chose some pretty awful boyfriends, so breaking up with them was a no-brainer. I felt justified because they clearly didn’t care about me anyway, or they had done some terrible thing, or they did the dirty work of breaking up with me. I really preferred to be the heartbroken one […]