When I was 24, I had knee surgery that landed me with a few weeks on crutches. I was in a good amount of pain, so I was taking Vicodin as one does in these situations. One day, I was hobbling home on my crutches when a voice called out to me from the front […]
A classic dynamic in romantic relationships is The Ultimatum. One person wants the other to behave in a certain way, and threatens to leave if they don’t. Some examples include threatening to leave if your partner doesn’t stop drinking, hanging out with unsavory friends, or cheating. The threat even seems to work for a while, […]
Lately, I’ve become a bit obsessed with reducing energy use in our house. It started with the refrigerator, and me finding out that it uses three times the amount of energy a standard new one does. Then, I discovered that a good chunk of energy was wasted by having our TV and its accompanying recording […]
When you feel like you don’t deserve love, you might feel as if love is something that everyone else gets, but you never will. It can be frustrating to watch all sorts of other people find love, keep love, and make it look easy. Some people even seem to take love for granted. Meanwhile, you […]
Dogs have many different reactions to fear- some cower, some attack. For years, we had the kind of dog that reacted to her fear by attacking- and she had a bottomless well of fear and anxiety. Liver was a muscular, hyper Dalmatian who came into the world with faulty wiring in her nervous system- constantly tense […]
Falling for another’s “potential” is a common but dangerous trap in relationships. You meet someone and inside they are just so brilliant, creative, sweet, wonderful, talented- but sadly they just don’t seem to know it. You see something in them that they can’t see for themselves. You love them so much, and you just want […]
I like to look at my website statistics, to see how people find this site. The keyword phrases can be pretty interesting- I get many people looking for “Zacatecas ice cream.” Many people are also looking for help with finding love, keeping love, and navigating relationships. While I can’t really offer much help in the […]
Recently, I watched the movie “Murderball” which is an excellent documentary about a powerful, tough, and inspiring group of quadriplegic rugby players. There is much that is worth seeing in this film, so I highly recommend it. Today, I am focused on one quote in particular, by team member Andy Cohn, while describing the period of rehabilitation one […]
One day, my husband and I were riding our bicycles around town. We arrived at a crosswalk that has a sensor for bikes, and when you ride over it, lights on the “Pedestrian Crossing” sign flash, and cars are expected to stop as you bike through. As we approached, the lights flashed, and we started […]
When I was in college, I rode around on a ten-speed that may as well have been a one-speed. I’d had this bike for years, and never learned how to change gears on it, so whatever gear it had been in when I got it, that was the gear I’d bike around on. One day, […]